Thank you for reading and for your thoughtful comment. You bring up a good point touched upon in the piece –– this unhealthy attachment style often goes both ways, which makes sense since the mother is the first teacher of the child. Ergo, they hold on to each other in ways that make it impossible for either to desire, find, and maintain healthy relationships with others, especially romantic partners.

I recommend a book called, ‘Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love’ to everyone. It sheds light on all our relationships, our attachment styles, and that of the people in our lives. My partner and I found it eye-opening and helpful in all our relationships.

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Loving partner + mama. 3x NYT bestselling author. Pen name Karrine Steffans. Performance Coach. Psych Major.

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