SEXUALITY & RELATIONSHIPS
Sexual due diligence, penis metrics, dick discernment, and how the sexual shaming of women hurts both sexes.
Table of Contents
2. Men Don’t Want to Be Treated Like Women
3. How Women React to Slut-Shaming
In 1996 I was eighteen years old and had been a stripper for two years already. I hung out with a group of drug dealers, pimps, professional athletes, and a crew of four other strippers I booked for private dances with some of my rich and famous friends, who I met in the private gentlemen’s club where I worked daily double shifts. I’d been living on my own since I was sixteen years old and pulling in no less than a thousand dollars a day. …
SELF-CARE
Do yourself a favor and try just one of these today.
Holy shit. Logging onto social media feels like running onto a busy freeway right now, as we are in the throws of the most stressful election of our time. The anxiety and fear on my Twitter timeline are palpable and it’s all I can do to topline the major news headlines before quickly logging off and going back to my grounding rituals. For me, cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, and planning my days are all ways I stay focused on my self-care and the caring of my family. …
PERSONAL GROWTH & CHANGE
Something is changing inside of you and soon, nothing will be the same.
It happens slowly, and then, all at once. For the past many years, you have been growing increasingly uncomfortable with where you are and who you’ve become. Looking around your home, you feel less joy than you did when you first moved in. Too much has happened and there are so many memories –– some you wish to forget and some you’re tired of remembering.
You’re ready for something new.
Talking to your friends has been a chore, and after each forced conversation, you walk away feeling exhausted, and as if you have once again wasted time. It’s the small talk, the redundancies, the same day-in-day-out minutia. Your friends and family never change, no one is growing, and none of them encourage your growth. …
STRESS & ANXIETY MANAGEMENT
Implement and practice these four steps today and see how much of a difference they make!
We’ve all been through a lot and some more than others, but no matter how insane your year has or has not been, it’s always a good idea to take stock of your life regularly, including daily stock of your mental health and well-being. Personally, I find myself doing more rather than just feeling-my-feelings, thanks to my highly functional anxiety. I am goal-oriented and can get lost in a plan without taking a moment to check in with myself at least once each day –– and I know I’m not the only one.
I live with Generalized Anxiety Disorder, as do over 6.8 million other adults, according to the Anxiety & Depression Association of America. This says nothing about the millions of Americans who suffer from other forms of anxiety, as well as those living with many different forms of depression. The point is, a lot of us were already having a hard enough time making it through our days before the presidential and pandemic scourge of 2020. …
PERSONAL SPACE & PRIVACY
I’m not off the grid, and I haven’t disappeared from social media, but no one knows where I am, and that’s just the way I like it.
If you know you me and you’re reading this, chances are, I’m not where you think I am. But don’t panic; I’m quite alright. I don’t know when it started or why, but I am uncomfortable with too many people knowing how to get ahold of me, whether by phone, email, social media, or in person. For over a decade, I have been an enigma, dodging social events and ignoring phone calls and text messages. …
The saddest Christmas ever turned me against the holiday; the hardest year ever has made me look forward to it
I must have been 12 the year I decided to hate Christmas for the rest of my life. I awoke that particular Christmas morning to the sound of my two younger sisters already ripping the wrapping paper from their gifts. They shouted with delight and awe upon seeing what Santa had brought them that year. They still believed in Claus, with one being just five and the other four. But by 12 years old, I knew where our presents came from — the uncles. …
RELATIONSHIPS & POLITICS
Plus, a pretty gross run-in with Donald Trump I’ll never forget.
I have never been a political person. I have never fully understood or cared about politics or the people who run this country. I am not the sort of person prone to march, protest, or participate in any form of political outcry or organization. I am also not the kind of person who would join the military or any other government agency. I know who I am and who I am not, and I have a deeply profound respect for everyone and anyone who gets up in the morning determined to fight for the freedoms and rights of others.
I just don’t have it in me. …
ADVICE
Out of context, these words have been pivotal in my ability to shift.
For several years, Bill Maher and I dated and were very publically in love. It was a thrilling time in my life and one I hold in the deepest and kindest regard. He and I have been broken up for over a decade, but we continue to keep in touch, checking in with eachother several times each month. For the past fifteen years, Bill has been an invaluable part of my life and a man to whom I owe alot.
Over the past fifteen years, Bill has taught me so much about the world, introduced me to a myriad of brilliant minds, and sprinkled me with lasting advice and idioms I employ to this day. Frankly, I could write a book about my life with Bill Maher and maybe one day I will, but for today’s intents and purposes, I’d like to focus this article on a singular piece of advice he once gave me back in 2007 –– a mantra I have since passed on to my coaching clients. …
SELF-CARE & LOVE
In a time of crisis, self-care is a revolutionary act, so incorporate these steps today as a sign of revolt against this insane year.
Holy shit, you guys! The world is on fire, everything is bad, and the only thing we’re expected to be able to control is ourselves. Still, it’s so easy to fall uncontrollably into the trap of doom-scrolling on social media while trying to stay abreast of the news, and instead, become obsessed with all the bad that’s happening in the world. Next thing you know, you’re feeling fatigued, experiencing headaches, and having a hard time getting to bed or staying asleep at night. It’s all you and your friends can talk about –– the virus, the economy, the election, the…fucking…president!
Well, you’re not alone. Millions of us are doing this, and we're hurting ourselves in the process. Though we do need to stay abreast of current affairs, especially this close to an election, we also need to be sure to protect ourselves from the wear-and-tear stress causes on the mind, body, and spirit. …
PRESIDENTIAL DEBATES & SELF-CARE
We’re in for a bumpy ride, folks. Build your kit and buy a ticket to the circus. There’ll be at least one clown in attendance.
Anyone who knows me will tell you that I avoid politics and most news headlines throughout the year. As a person who has been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder, I have learned how to avoid triggers and that I don’t need all the information, all the time. Instead, I do what I refer to as “toplining,” which is basically reading the significant headlines and maybe a Twitter synopsis from legitimate news sources and leaving it at that.
I live in a self-care bubble, and I do so on purpose, with purpose, as a way to keep myself sane and healthy. For instance, I know the world is on fire, and people are dying; I don’t need to check in with the news every day to find out just how many are dying, when, and where. It’s a pandemic. I get it. …
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